"...the battered woman gets a powerful feeling of overwhelming relief when an incident ends. She becomes additcted to that feeling. The abuser is the only person who can deliver moments of peace, by being his better self for awhile. Thus, the abuser holds the key to the abused person's feeling of well-being. The abuser delivers the high highs that bookend the low lows, and the worse the bad times get, the better the good times are in contrast. All of this in addition to the fact that a battered woman is shell-shocked enough to believe that each horrible incident may be the last."
"We all know the story: The murdered woman had reportedly suffered violence at the hands of the defendant for a long while, virtually since the start of their relationship. A few times, she had called the police, and once she even brought battery charges against him (he was acquitted), but the violence continued. The day of the murder, she hadn't invited him to come along to a social event, and not long after 10 p.m., she was stabbed to death. The defendant told a friend that he'd had a dream in which he killed her, but later his lawyers said she was probably killed by drug dealers."
Gavin de Becker
"The Gift of Fear"
1997
Of course, the victim in the anecdote above was Nicole Brown Simpson. May she rest in peace and may O.J. Simpson die a slow, disease-ridden death in prison.
Miss Rihanna, Annie linked to this article. I hope you read it.
Rihanna, please get out now, while you can get out alive. Or at least watch "What's Love Got to Do With It?" a few dozen times or call Tina Turner and speak to her directly. I'll bet she'll take your call.
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